Important update

For those of you that have been following Cary and Amanda Rasberry's story over the last couple of years, if you're at all like me, you've thought to yourself that you wish you could do SOMETHING to help. Good news: there's a very easy way to do just that.

Medical Trust Fund for Cary Rasberry (link opens in a new window- includes PayPal donation link.)

A medical trust fund has been set up to help Cary with his incredibly overwhelming financial burden due to his medical bills from extensive hospitalizations and surgeries. One of our most important blessings as Christians is the ability and duty to help one another in times of need. I hope that while you're giving to your family and friends during the holiday season, you'll also think of the Rasberrys. This precious family has been through so much.

Thanks. :)

**EDIT: The link has been updated, for those of you that let me know the link was broken! It works now!**
  • firebolt
    That is good to know!

    Are you feeling better? I meant to come say hi yesterday morning but my son had other plans. Do you need anything?
    by firebolt at 12/14/09 9:25AM
  • whipsmile
    thanks for the info.
    by whipsmile at 12/14/09 9:53AM
  • jess
    Thanks for letting us know!
    by jess at 12/14/09 1:10PM
  • ewalker
    Are you well?
    by ewalker at 12/14/09 1:47PM
  • mrs_worm
    This is a painting a good friend did at my request. I got the idea from some of your posts, so I thought you would enjoy seeing it!

    I hate meetings
    by mrs_worm at 12/14/09 11:25PM
  • bestill
    I, too, am unhappy about Christmas beginning before Thanksgiving. I e-mailed my favorite radio station in our new location and complained when they began playing Christmas music 24/7 the week BEFORE Thanksgiving. I still wanted to hear my usual light rock. It was 60 degrees in Illinois at the time. I really like Thanksgiving and it's getting short changed!
    by bestill at 12/17/09 8:36PM
  • marla
    Hi Miriam - saw your parents last night! Random, but true :-)
    by marla at 02/03/10 7:27PM

Our Dear FC

Did you go to FC? If so, you're like me and get the seemingly weekly envelopes with an envelope inside... sometimes bearing address labels, sometimes bearing a notepad, but ALWAYS bearing a lengthly letter with a plea for financial support. And if you're like me, you probably don't even read it, and send it straight to the shredder. Sometimes the address labels too, if you're feeling grumpy.

Don't get me wrong. I loved FC. Those were two of the best years of my life, and I met a LOT of people that I will be friends with till we die or Jesus comes, whichever happens first. But my thoughts on getting those "donation, please!" letters range from, "you already took my money!!" to "I can give you $20, but that's not going to help anyone, and then you'll call and ask for more."

However, (bold because it's an important however) I just found out something that has changed my mind. Buddy Payne came to visit here a couple weeks ago, and spent some time with my parents talking about his new business plan and all the things he's been doing to try to raise money for FC. Whether or not you like the guy, the man is a genius and is on FIRE for that college. What I found out though that changed my mind was that a lot of the grants FC can try to get are based at least in part on percentage of donating alumni. Doesn't matter how much the alumni give, per se, it matters what percent give. If everyone who attended FC sent in JUST A DOLLAR a year, it would position FC to be able to get lots of *other* money that doesn't come out of your pocket. I didn't previously know this, and I can tell you that from now on, I'll be sure to send even just a little each year so that my tiny contributing factor gets counted. When it comes down to it, I DID have a great experience there and want others to be able to share that too, so I can send my drop in the bucket and help out. Someone did that for me, after all.

And for the record, YES, I know that not everyone likes, agrees with, is friendly toward, or even knows about FC. And that's just fine. But I'm just spreading the word for people like me who didn't know there was an easy way to help out.

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And more importantly, happy 30th birthday to my first sister! I'd write more but I can't stack posts anymore and wanted to leave this one public. :-P
But I love her lots anyway. :D
  • tu_madre

    but i liked dr payne a lot. he's a really nice man
    by tu_madre at 08/15/09 10:40AM
  • hnsl
    thanks, Miriam for finding that out.
    Buddy actually called Tyler right after camp when he heard Tyler wanted to go. Financially it is going to be difficult to send him there...but how can you say no when they are so excited and haven't had that much to be excited about their entire life? I want him to go so a grant would definately help him so everyone donate a dollar!!! Thanks:)

    (edit)++++++++++++
    This is runforrest writing this not hnsl...
    by hnsl at 08/15/09 8:02PM
  • hnsl
    ok. confused. This is runforrest. How I got on as hnsl (my niece) is a mystery!! Wait, I am at her house right now and I don't remember signing in...so SHE forgot to log off. hmmmm....what can I say to people under her name? hmmm....mwahahaha
    by hnsl at 08/15/09 8:06PM
  • cbonk
    I think that FC needs to develop some programs that will keep the alumni more closely associated with the college. Sometimes, it seems rude to me that, not only do I do work for the school through our booster club (donating time, money, etc.), but I also DO donate to the school through the telethon (Zeta Phi callers, only, please). There are many ways that the school could improve its relationship with their alumni ranging in costs, effort, and manpower.
    P.S. Are you planning to stop being my friend when Jesus' returns?! : )
    by cbonk at 08/15/09 8:57PM
  • motherinisrael
    Hey, where are baby pictures? I got on the computer this morning before getting ready for church for one reason only, and I don't see any pics. Surely, you snapped some photos while you were there or had someone take ones of you holding bebe. I NEED to see bebe.
    by motherinisrael at 08/16/09 9:30AM
  • emotionalalienation
    i went to fc...but fc doesnt know where i am..so i cant get the letters....the beauty of moving alot
    by emotionalalienation at 08/16/09 1:00PM
  • wifelet
    Hmm ... I was not aware of that. Maybe next time, I'll at least let the letter sit on my desk for months on end before I throw it away! ;-)
    by wifelet at 08/16/09 10:07PM
  • cmvermont
    funny, i've changed my address 5 times since leaving fc, and i think i lost them around move 3 :)
    buddy payne really is a genius tho. i went to nl while i was at fc, and managed to get more than my fair share of face time with the man. when were you at fc?
    by cmvermont at 08/16/09 11:02PM
  • missysnapp
    Good to know, actually. I may just send in a few bucks myself! Thanks.
    by missysnapp at 08/16/09 11:02PM
  • matermagistra
    I love Buddy Payne. He's in my top ten list of best people EVER.
    by matermagistra at 08/16/09 11:32PM
  • joy_hawthorne
    Funny how I have enough money for my favorite ice cream and a fun night in town with my family but not "enough" for a donation. Thanks for the tip that there are funds-matching programs. Why didn't I know that before?
    by joy_hawthorne at 08/17/09 12:59AM
  • DessertDiva
    I'll keep that in mind - thanks!
    by DessertDiva at 08/17/09 2:00AM
  • aikenape
    Hi Miriam - I'm a WW lurker, in the group, but only on the surface. I remember you from FC, but not sure if you remember me that much. Anyway, just wandered over here to your most recent post and I love it. Buddy Payne is an amazing man and I feel he's going to do a lot for the school. I must admit that the most recent donation letter I got was the only one in the past 10 years that I actually read and considered doing something about. In fact, I WAS going to set up a monthly donation program based on the letter, but somehow it went missing (I guess that was just from habit of throwing others away). I hope he can continue to gain donations. I may not have completely understood it while I was there, but I wouldn't trade my 2 years at FC for anything.
    by aikenape at 08/20/09 10:07PM
  • nacmacfeegle
    Just something else to think about ( i love your post by the way). FC took a hard stand on some issues and lost a lot of corporate donated money. Issues like homosexuals working at FC for instance. I applaud their strength for standing firm. Our alumni money does a lot of good when convincing other companies to pick up that deficit.
    by nacmacfeegle at 08/24/09 5:44PM
  • jesspico
    Thanks for the info - didn't know that either! Certainly changes my perspective.
    by jesspico at 09/03/09 2:12PM
  • eternalsunshine
    yeah, I'm friends with USMC snipers, so if they do find me, it'll be the last time
    by eternalsunshine at 09/18/09 10:47AM
  • chooselove
    i love the jersey!
    by chooselove at 09/21/09 6:41PM
  • derbydi
    I didn't know that about alumni giving. Thanks for sharing. FC was a great experience for me!
    by derbydi at 09/30/09 8:59AM
  • el_magnifico
    hmmm...interesting.
    by el_magnifico at 10/21/09 9:30PM
  • yoyoma
    thanks for you comment about our move! and that's really good to know about donating to FC. thanks a lot!
    by yoyoma at 11/04/09 10:55AM

Interesting health study

Came across this a few days ago, and thought I'd share:

"People who are only a few pounds overweight and sedentary have an increased risk for heart failure, according to a study of doctors published in the journal Circulation. The 20-year study of more than 21,000 American doctors measured the influence of being overweight and inactive on development of heart failure, the progressive loss of the organ's ability to pump blood.
Adjusting for other risk factors, such as high blood pressure and high cholesterol, the study found a 49 percent increase in heart failure in overweight men compared with those at a recommended weight.
Men who engaged in physical activity one to three times a week had an 18 percent reduction in heart failure risk; those active five to seven times a week had a 36 percent reduction."

Interestingly enough, another article I've been reading basically shows that scientifically studied odds are that if you're told "change your habits or die," it's nine to one you WON'T change.

What does this say about us when it comes to taking care of ourselves?
  • cbonk
    These always seem really obvious to me...
    by cbonk at 07/20/09 2:31PM
  • mayflower
    Hmm... I was actually just thinking about going jogging...
    by mayflower at 07/20/09 3:58PM
  • mattdevore
    A year ago I was totally one of the lemmings heading for the cliff. Today, I ran a 5K over my lunch break and intend to go out for another two miles a few minutes from now. All I did was set a goal and develop a good habit. I really don't understand how I was able to do that, but I'll "run" with it. It's nice to think I may be able to be hanging around longer for my family in the coming years, but you never know.
    by mattdevore at 07/20/09 5:05PM
  • scbrewer
    It may be the same ending for all of us, a.k.a. death, but the way we get there and how we get there is another thing. If our lifestyle dictates that we die from a disease that is otherwise reversable, I dont care how it is, smoking, drinking, over eating, drugs... you are killing yourself. My grandmother died of a heart attack because her doctor told her to stop smoking and she didn't. My grandfather then died six months later, to the day, because of second hand smoke. My Papaw drastically changed his lifestyle after a stroke at 80 and was able to live another 12 years before he passed away, if he hadn't eliminated pretty much any added salt, he would have died very shortly thereafter. Not dying from not taking care of yourself is like smoking all of your life and never having any problems, it's the exception, not the rule.
    by scbrewer at 07/20/09 5:31PM
  • scbrewer
    *steps off soap box*
    by scbrewer at 07/20/09 5:31PM
  • rockinrobin
    Sticking with the exercise and good eating habits seems to be the hard thing for most people. Did the article apply the facts for women too?
    by rockinrobin at 07/20/09 6:40PM
  • neenee
    You should see the lack of responsibility that I see at work. Some patients don't even know (or care) what kind of medicine they are taking because they figure if the doctor gave it then it's ok. How lame is that? And some people would rather just go on insulin for their diabetes than to exercise to lose the weight so they don't have to have insulin. Then there are people that just want to take a pill to lower their cholesterol instead of changing the way they eat and try to exercise. When they don't like the side effects of the prescription, they want another pill to take away the side effects. And I just had a woman the other day that refused treatment for her osteoporosis stating "Well, I probably won't live that much longer anyway." Brilliant line of reasoning.
    Arg.
    by neenee at 07/20/09 9:13PM
  • littlelamb
    Well, you know how I feel about diet and exercise because of the way I live my life. It is a constant frustration to me that I can't motivate those close to me to do the same. Some of my family make comments about how skinny I am and how lucky I am and it frustrates me to no end. We all know what to do, but we don't care. When we turn our back on medical warnings and don't take care of our bodies then we send the message loud and clear to our loved ones that we do not love them or care what they will go through when we die. Yes, we've all heard about the person who did everything they could and still died young of a heart attack (this happened to a friend's father in high school), but at least then the family knows that the person did all they could to prevent it. You can't give up on a battle because there's a 10% chance you might lose. How silly!
    And then there are all the gimmicks. Diet fads and this or that supplement that if you take it every day you decrease your chance of cancer by x%. But we all know what works. We all know what to do to make our bodies last. It's like the people who have the bible right in front of them and read it but say, "Yes, I know, but this person told me to say a prayer and I did and I'm already saved." Whether it's spiritual, financial, or physical, people only do what is best for themselves if they want to. And it all takes work. We can't be lazy.
    by littlelamb at 07/20/09 10:00PM
  • sharon
    Forget the holidays. This summer has been so hard to get to the gym! I have gained 5 or 6 pounds!!!
    by sharon at 07/20/09 11:32PM
  • butterflyhomerachel
    Thanks for sending all my stuff. Everything is great!
    by butterflyhomerachel at 07/21/09 12:30AM
  • flattyer
    Is it bad that I just read the title of your post and my brain immediately shut down? :D Love you Miriam!
    by flattyer at 07/21/09 4:10AM
  • spike427
    thanks, now i can have some extra guilt about being too tired and lazy to exercise :P
    by spike427 at 07/21/09 10:34AM
  • sarahmarcelle
    This makes me want to quit my sedentary job and become a mail lady. You know, not the lazy ones who drive a truck, the ones who walk around all day.
    by sarahmarcelle at 07/21/09 11:40AM
  • sharon
    Hey, you still wanting to do something with that Norman Rockwell print? :-D
    by sharon at 07/21/09 2:23PM
  • wifelet
    OK, I'll say it. It's easy to look down your nose at people around you, and say, well, you're fat and lazy, so you need to do something about it. You have some disease that I think is ridiculous, so I'm going to call it suicide. People need to be aware that it's NOT always as simple as having a desire to change your lifestyle and habits. It's not even always as simple as having that desire and having the willpower to make the changes. Sometimes, you make the changes, you live a really healthy life, and you still end up with those suicidal diseases. You still end up fat. It doesn't mean you're lazy.
    by wifelet at 07/21/09 3:04PM
  • curlie
    There is something to the "fat and happy" phenomenon. If there is no longer any joy in dining with friends and you stop being hospitable because your diet is so restrictive you can't eat normal food (yes, we have encountered this), how is that helping anyone? I know you didn't address that, Miriam, but there is definitely a point at which people--even Christians--can go off the deep end and just end up skinny and grouchy about life.
    by curlie at 07/21/09 8:07PM
  • mattdevore
    Everybody is different, but I think most people I know, myself especially included, tend to make bad choices and develop bad habits which cause us to have worse health than if we made better choices and developed better habits. Even if everyone did everything physically "right" then I believe there would still be significant diversity in body shape/size and overall health, but I would also expect that the average weight would be lower and the health would be better and the life span would be longer.

    I hope my saying I used to be "one of the lemmings heading for the cliff" didn't sound like I was looking down my nose at anyone. I just hope to show that we CAN change our habits to healthier ones.
    by mattdevore at 07/22/09 10:46AM
  • sarahmarcelle
    I think part of the problem with people being overweight and issues like that is that every social thing *has* to revolve around food now. And that is a sign of our American, rich, wealthy, life of excess.

    I also think that the social eating factor *is* a HUGE reason why 9 out of 10 people won't change. They don't want to give up or manage and make good eating choices in the events with friends.
    by sarahmarcelle at 07/22/09 5:50PM
  • spike427
    for Christians a lot of times social things revolve around food, but for many people in the world, they revolve around ALCOHOL. We get so used to going to weddings, for example, where the reception has no alcohol, obviously. There are people out there who get OFFENDED when there is not even a champagne toast. Just like sometimes Christians might get miffed if they drove several hours to a wedding that featured only cake and punch! ;) (nothing wrong with that...just passing along what I've seen and heard!) Just wanted to throw that out there - Christians often get together for a meal or to dine with friends, but people who drink have social time that does not involve food because they are only getting together "for drinks". For me, I love to have friends over for a meal because I ENJOY cooking and being generous with serving my friends a meal is part of how I view being hospitable. It is also "easy" to ask someone over for a meal...but not as easy to say, "Would you like to come over to my house and sit in my living room while we talk?" I don't think that's only our American culture, though.
    by spike427 at 07/22/09 7:27PM
  • rhino
    It amazes me the ability of people to excuse themselves and their habits when they want to. I'm also just as amazed at people's ability to improvise and change their habits when they are forced to. If a person wants to change what it is they use to gather people to their houses, if they put their mind to it, I'm sure plenty of people could come up with all kinds of interesting alternatives to using unhealthy food to bring people to their house. Just off the top of my head, healthy food seems like a logical alternative...I have seen COUNTLESS people who swore up and down they're doing everything they can to lose weight and "it just isn't going to come off," subsequently lose dozens of lbs when their dr. tells them "lose it or it will kill you." Human beings are so very often surprised at what they're capable of when they really put their minds to a task. We are a nation of fat people because we don't have any motivation to be otherwise, unless it comes from within. The shame of it is that those people, at least in Christian circles, are seen as "vain" and "superficial."
    by rhino at 08/23/09 10:22PM

Going private

I've kept my weblog public for a really long time because I don't like the idea of the world having to be so paranoid about their "privacy" and such. But sadly... sometimes I think it's better to protect your privacy and the privacy of those around you. Unfortunately the world is just not ideal.

I'll leave a few of my entries public from time to time, but most will be private from now on, so if you'd like to be on my friends list and you're not already please let me know.

Also, for those of you who use first and last names for your friend list, please don't. It completely destroys internet privacy when your name shows up on google.

Oh, and since I don't know how often I'll make it back to this public post, it might be easier (if you're gold) to send me a message instead of leaving a comment.

Thanks! :)
  • charirosey
    Thanks for bringing up the name thing. since I'm not gold anymore that's another reason why I'm not on here to post anymore.
    by charirosey at 06/12/09 12:42AM
  • beckyroo
    Can I be on your list? :-)
    by beckyroo at 06/12/09 12:58AM
  • sarahmarcelle
    I love privacy.
    by sarahmarcelle at 06/12/09 10:43AM
  • beep_girl
    Hi can I be on your blog? :)
    by beep_girl at 06/12/09 1:03PM
  • rachel
    add me please
    by rachel at 06/12/09 8:08PM
  • cowboyrob
    add me
    by cowboyrob at 06/12/09 10:16PM
  • adeline
    OH! ;D ha! thanks!
    by adeline at 06/12/09 10:30PM
  • meditationis
    What she said.
    by meditationis at 06/12/09 11:20PM
  • mrs_worm
    thanks for mentioning the whole first/last name thing! that bugs me!!

    is last initial okay??
    by mrs_worm at 06/13/09 10:29AM
  • jody
    Done! I'm glad you mentioned it. I hadn't thought of it before, but I went ahead and deleted everything off that username, so thanks! ;)
    by jody at 06/13/09 12:45PM
  • firebolt
    I don't know why Bella is scared.......she's just.....weird. She will sniff at him and then back up and go hide. And if he cries she is out of the room immediately.
    by firebolt at 06/13/09 2:36PM
  • danielstephen
    the people with my name on google are waaaaay cooler than me and show up way before i do lol
    by danielstephen at 06/13/09 11:31PM
  • sarahphim
    Please keep me on...I enjoy keeping up with you. :)
    by sarahphim at 06/14/09 5:29PM
  • rockinrobin
    i would miss being on the list. Please include me!
    by rockinrobin at 06/14/09 10:44PM
  • 23_bravo_7
    I would get my celiac information elsewhere.
    by 23_bravo_7 at 06/15/09 12:07PM
  • megan
    Can I be added please? I enjoy your updates/perspectives/ideas!
    by megan at 06/15/09 1:10PM
  • karate7
    Can I be added? Please.
    by karate7 at 06/16/09 10:34PM
  • hnsl
    Indeed he is! What piece is it?
    by hnsl at 07/03/09 10:01AM
  • nate
    Dunno how I missed this -- okay, I do, I'm a pleo delinquent -- but I'd like to keep up, too.
    by nate at 07/14/09 2:14PM
  • rachelandnathan
    Can I be added please??
    by rachelandnathan at 07/14/09 3:55PM